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PARENTING SKILLS TRAINING TREATMENT PLAN
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Dear client,
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James Fitzgerald, MS, NCC, LCMHC
Parenting Skills Training
In 12 months, or at the conclusion of therapy and treatment with the clinician, the client will have completed the objectives and interventions, adapted from the Wiley Treatment Planner Series book, The Parenting Skills Treatment Planner, with DSM-5 Updates by Sarah Edison Knapp and Arthur E. Jongsma, Jr. The client will complete the activities listed below under the problems they struggle with.
Parenting Skill Building
YouTube Video: The Single Most Important Parenting Strategy | Becky Kennedy | TED (Getting better at repair attempts) located in the Parenting Skills Playbook playlist on the clinician’s channel.
Everyone loses their temper from time to time — but the stakes are dizzyingly high when the focus of your fury is your own child. Clinical psychologist and renowned parenting whisperer Becky Kennedy is here to help. Not only does she have practical advice to help parents manage the guilt and shame of their not-so-great moments but she also models the types of conversations you can have to be a better parent. (Hint: this works in all other relationships too.) Bottom line? It’s never too late to reconnect.
YouTube Video: The Brain Expert: How To Raise Mentally Resilient Children (According To Science) | Dr. Daniel Amen – Jay Shetty podcast, located in the Parenting Skills Playbook playlist on the clinician’s channel. We discuss mindful parenting, ways you can set goals with your children, and how to nurture their ability to think independently. Dr. Amen will help you better understand the hacks of raising well-rounded, resilient, and loving individuals in today’s fast-paced world. In this interview, they discuss: How Do You Set Goals For Your Kids? How Do Children Become Free Thinkers? Allow Your Child to Get Uncomfortable. The 20-Minute Practice to Bond with Your Child. What Does No Boundaries Lead To? Why Do Children Shut Down? How Do You Repair a Broken Bond? Don’t Tell Your Child They Are Smart. How Can Your Child Solve a Problem? You Are Making Your Kids Miserable. Attachments That Become Broken. I Don’t Understand My Child. What is a Loving Discipline? My Child is Addicted to Social Media. What Does Social Do to the Brain? Effects of Divorce on Kids. Teach Your Child to Self-Soothe. How to Love Your Child Right.
YouTube Video: 10 Parenting Tips to Calm Down Any Child In a Minute | Brightside, located in the Parenting Skills Playbook playlist on the clinician’s channel. Tantrums are very common in kids aged 1 to 4. More than half of kids let their frustration out at least once a week, or more often. Why do they do it? By the time they turn 3 or 4, kids have much better language skills than babies, of course, but their vocabulary is still not advanced enough to describe everything they feel. So what can you do to prevent your kids from going crazy now and then? Topics include: Make your child feel comfortable Let your toddler choose. Find out what’s really bothering your kid. Distract your little one. Become a good teacher for your kid. Do not provoke tantrums. Use positive words. Keep a straight face. Give praise when the kid deserves it. Be smart about the pocket money.
Video summary: If you are going out for a longer time, take their favorite blanket with you. It will give them the feeling of home and safety. When you are a parent, you tend to take plenty of stuff with you even when you leave the house for an hour. If someone is making fun of you, let them. Start with little things, which will make him or her feel like they are in control. Control also means responsibility. They will of course not know it just now, but they will see how their choices affect what they do and how they feel. don’ta get the message; they don’t get the answer. What do they do? Throw a tantrum. Dr. Hoecker offers the following solution: try to create a sign language your kid will understand and remember. Teach them to show basic words like “food,” “milk,” “sleep” and so on.
Your child will unlikely be getting over a breakup or job loss, but they have their own concerns, as we know. When you feel danger is coming, the baby’s face is reddening, or they are giving other signs of a tantrum to follow, distract them. “Let’s go for a walk,” “How about we read your favorite book” are all great ways to divert your child’s fleeting attention. Michele Borba, Ed.D., author of Parents Do Make a Difference, explains that kids really want to do what is right, but sometimes they just don’t know what that is. Explain your concerns and fears, never yell at or in front of your kid. You could even make up an “angry vocabulary” for your child. That would be a list of words to express negative emotions. Your kid doesn’t like to be forcefully interrupted, or feels uncomfortable about doing certain things? Give them warning before they have to do it and explain why it is necessary. Millions of people in 47 countries around the world love Supernanny. This modern-day Mary Poppins gives great parenting advice. One of the things she suggests is using positive instead of the negative. Every time you feel like screaming “no,” “don’t” and “stop,” don’t do it. “Don’t jump on the couch” could motivate your kid to do the opposite, especially if they are moody. Introduce the new family rule to your kid. When he or she starts whining, you have the right not to respond to them. If that happens, keep your face straight. You made a deal, right? Jane Nelsen, Ed.D., coauthor of Positive Discipline for Preschoolers recommends that you also introduce a warning sign which will show you are going to stop listening.
We are not just talking about money here. Your baby will unlikely appreciate it, anyway. Thank the kids for doing something right. Doctor Michele Borba thinks it is a good idea to say things like “Thanks for using your normal voice” or “My ears love that voice.” All families are different and have different income. There is no universal answer for “how much pocket money to give your kid” in numbers. Rooster Money, a resourcefully focused on how you should go about pocket money for your child, offers an Allowance Report. It says four-year-olds get an average of $2.82. This amount is slowly growing and doubles by the time the kid turns 9.
YouTube Video: Dr. Becky Kennedy: Protocols for Excellent Parenting & Improving Relationships of All Kinds – Andrew Huberman, Huberman Lab Podcast. This video is located in the Parenting Skills Playbook playlist on the clinician’s channel. In this episode, my guest is Dr. Becky Kennedy, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and founder of Good Inside, an education platform for parents and parents-to-be. We discuss actionable protocols for raising resilient, emotionally healthy kids and effective alternatives to typical forms of reward and punishment that instead teach children valuable skills and strengthen the parent-child bond. These protocols also apply to other types of relationships: professional, romantic, friendships, siblings, etc. We explain how to respond to emotional outbursts, rudeness, and entitlement, repair fractured relationships, build self-confidence, and improve interpersonal connections with empathy while maintaining healthy boundaries. We also discuss how to effectively communicate with children and adults with ADHD, anxiety, learning challenges, or with “deeply feeling” individuals. The conversation is broadly applicable to all types of social interactions and bonds. By the end of the episode, you will have learned simple yet powerful tools to build healthy relationships with kids, teens, adults, and oneself.
Abusive Parenting
The clinician will report any suspected cases of abuse, neglect, or drug use, if they haven’t been reported already. If the parent is in counseling after a case has been opened by DCF, follow the objectives and interventions outlined in this chapter of the planner.
Canfield, J., M. Hansen, and K. Kirberger (1993). Chicken Soup for the Soul. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications.
Coloroso, B. (1994). Kids Are Worth It! New York: William Morrow and Company, Inc.
Dinkmeyer, D., and G. McKay (1989). Systematic Training for Effective Parenting (STEP). Circle Pines, MN: American Guidance Service.
Dreikurs, R., and V. Stoltz (1964). Children: The Challenge. New York: Plume Printing.
Moorman, C. (1996). Where the Heart Is: Stories of Home and Family. Merrill, MI: Personal Power Press.
Moorman, C. (1998). Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound. Merrill, MI: Personal Power Press.
Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)
The client will acquire current and credible information about ADHD and its effects on families by reading pertinent literature, attending informational forums, and seeking professional guidance. The clinician will recommend the following resources.
The clinician will review basic information about ADHD with the parents and begin the process of educating them concerning the implications of ADHD. The clinician will advise the parents to read current literature that defines ADHD, its effects, and treatment. (See below) The clinician will refer the parents to Web sites or informational resources that distribute credible and current information about ADHD and its effects on families (e.g., Children with Attention Deficit Disorders [CHADD] (301) 306-7070 or www.chadd.org, The National Attention Deficit Disorder Association (440) 350-9595 or www.add.org).
The client agrees to attend regular consultations with the child’s doctor and/or a family therapist to discuss ADHD and its effects on children and their families.
The clinician will assign the parents to meet with the ADHD child’s doctor to review pharmacological interventions available for treatment. The clinician will schedule a time-limited series of family counseling sessions with the parents and other family members to continue their educational process, resolve specific areas of frustration and conflict, and offer support in their efforts to cope with the effects of ADHD on the family.
The clinician and client will review and discuss current laws pertaining to children’s disabilities and available accommodations in the school and the community.
The clinician will assist the parents to become familiar with the laws pertaining to ADHD and related disabilities by providing them with copies of the law and/or literature that summarize it (e.g., Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973, The Americans with Disabilities Act, Title II, and the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act [IDEA]). The clinician will instruct the parents to contact their state and district education departments to obtain information about educational programs and accommodations available to the ADHD student. The client and clinician will discuss the applicability of these programs to the success of their child in school.
The client will learn how to advocate for the child’s right to accommodations and support in school and in the community.
The clinician will assist the parents in preparing a written statement for those educators and others working closely with their ADHD child who would benefit from specific information regarding ADHD and its effects on the child. The clinician will brainstorm with the parents to create a list of accommodations, programs, and support strategies that would assist the child in the school or community (or assign the “ADHD Accommodations Request Form” from the Parenting Skills Homework Planner by Knapp). The clinician will role-play interviews with the parents that they will have with educators and other adults working directly with their child. The clinician will guide the parents to develop assertive and cooperative skills for advocating for their child at school and in the community.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Barkley, R. A. (1995). Taking Charge of ADHD: The Complete, Authoritative Guide For Parents. New York: Guilford Press.
Fay, J., F. Cline, and C. Fay (2000). Becoming a Love and Logic Parent. Golden, CO: The Love and Logic Press.
Hallowell, E., and J. Ratey (1994). Driven to Distraction. New York: Pantheoon Books.
Richfield, S. (1998). Parent Coaching Cards. Blue Bell, PA: Parent Coaching Cards, Inc.
Shapiro, L. (1994). Jumpin’ Jake Settles Down. Secaucus, NJ: Childswork/Childsplay.
Attention-Seeking Behavior
Attention-seeking behavior can manifest in various ways and is often a complex response to unmet needs or underlying emotional concerns. Individuals may engage in attention-seeking behaviors when they feel overlooked, misunderstood, or disconnected from others, and these behaviors often signal a deeper need for validation, belonging, or self-worth. Recognizing and addressing these needs is essential for reducing such behavior and fostering healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
Clinically, attention-seeking behaviors can present through actions such as exaggerated expressions of distress, interrupting others, excessive talkativeness, or even engaging in risky or inappropriate actions to gain acknowledgment. While these behaviors may seem disruptive or manipulative, they often arise from unconscious patterns learned during earlier stages of life. For instance, a child who grew up in a household where positive attention was scarce may learn to seek attention through negative or dramatic actions, as these reliably elicit responses from caregivers. Without intervention, these patterns can persist into adulthood, impacting social, occupational, and interpersonal dynamics.
In therapy, a compassionate approach to attention-seeking behaviors involves helping individuals recognize the underlying emotional needs driving these actions. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) can be effective in exploring and reframing core beliefs around self-worth and belonging, while Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) can aid in developing interpersonal effectiveness and emotional regulation skills. Practicing self-awareness through mindfulness, such as noticing the urge to seek attention and pausing before acting, can also be beneficial.
Encouraging the development of self-validation and exploring healthier ways to connect with others, particularly through assertiveness training or activities that foster genuine self-expression, can support long-term growth. Helping individuals shift from external validation to a more internal sense of self-worth can ultimately reduce reliance on attention-seeking behaviors and lead to improved relational satisfaction.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Dinkmeyer, D., and G. McKay (1989). Systematic Training for Effective Parenting (STEP). Circle Pines, MN: American Guidance Service.
Dinkmeyer, D., and G. McKay (1996). Raising a Responsible Child. New York: Simon and Schuster.
Dreikurs, R., and V. Soltz (1964). Children: The Challenge. New York: Plume Printing.
Gordon, T. (2000). Parent Effectiveness Training. New York: Three Rivers Press.
Gardner, H. (1993). Intelligence Reframed: Multiple Intelligences for the 21st Century. New York: Simon and Schuster.
Moorman, C. (1998). Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound. Merrill, MI: Personal Power Press.
Moorman, C., and S. Knapp (2001). The Parent Talk System: The Language of Responsible Parenting. Merrill, MI: Personal Power Press.
Blended Family
A blended family, often referred to as a stepfamily, forms when two individuals with children from previous relationships come together to create a new family unit. This family structure has become increasingly common and brings both unique challenges and rewards. Blended families combine different family histories, traditions, parenting styles, and expectations, requiring patience, open communication, and flexibility from all members as they adjust to the new family dynamic.
The transition into a blended family can be challenging for parents and children alike. Children may feel conflicted about loyalty to their biological parents or struggle with new rules, routines, or expectations. They may also experience mixed emotions about new siblings, such as feelings of jealousy, rivalry, or competition for attention. For parents, balancing relationships with both their biological children and stepchildren can be complex, especially as they work to establish a cohesive family environment.
Key strategies can help blended families navigate these transitions more smoothly. Open communication is crucial, allowing all family members to express their feelings, needs, and expectations without judgment. Creating family rituals or traditions unique to the new family unit can also help foster a sense of belonging and shared identity. Meanwhile, allowing space and time for relationships to develop organically can ease feelings of pressure or resistance. Many families find it helpful to spend both group and one-on-one time with each child, ensuring everyone feels valued and included.
From a therapeutic perspective, a blend of approaches, including family systems theory and attachment-based therapy, can be helpful. Family systems theory emphasizes understanding each member’s role within the family dynamic, while attachment-based therapy explores ways to nurture secure attachments and trust within new relationships. Blended families may also benefit from couples counseling, as strong, supportive communication between partners provides a stable foundation for the entire family.
Patience is essential; research shows it can take years for a blended family to fully integrate and establish a harmonious, stable environment. Fostering empathy, maintaining realistic expectations, and focusing on building relationships based on mutual respect can go a long way in helping a blended family thrive. With time, these families can develop unique and lasting bonds that are both meaningful and resilient.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Fay, J., F. Cline, and C. Fay (2000). Becoming a Love and Logic Parent. Golden, CO: The Love and Logic Press.
Gorton, T. (2000). Parent Effectiveness Training. New York: Three Rivers Press.
Roosevelt, R., and J. Lofas (1976). Living in Step. Blue Ridge Summit, PA: McGraw-Hill, Inc.
Shomberg, E. (1999). Blending Families: A Guide for Parents, Stepparents, and Everyone Building a Successful New Family. Berkley, CA: Berkley Publishing Group.
Wisdom, S., and J. Green (2002) Stepcoupling: Creating and Sustaining a Strong Marriage in Today’s Blended Family. New York: Three Rivers Press.
Bonding and Attachment Issues
Building a strong bond with your child takes time and patience. It’s okay to seek help and learn along the way. Every effort you make contributes to a healthier, happier relationship with your child.
If you have specific concerns or situations you’d like to discuss further, feel free to share more details, and I’d be happy to help.
Understand Attachment Styles: Familiarize yourself with different attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) to better understand your child’s needs.
Create a Safe Environment: Ensure your home is a place of security where your child feels comfortable expressing themselves without fear of judgment.
Physical Affection: Appropriate physical touch like hugs or holding hands can reinforce a sense of security and belonging.
Be Responsive: Attend to your child’s needs promptly. Consistent responsiveness helps build a secure attachment.
Establish Routines: Regular schedules provide a sense of stability and predictability, which is comforting for children.
Engage in Play: Playtime is crucial for bonding. It allows you to connect on your child’s level and fosters trust.
Seek Professional Help if Needed: If you notice persistent attachment issues, consider consulting a child psychologist or counselor specializing in attachment and family dynamics.
Educate Yourself: Read books or attend workshops on parenting and child development to enhance your understanding and skills.
Join Support Groups: Connecting with other parents can provide emotional support and practical advice.
Practice Self-Care: Taking care of your well-being ensures you have the emotional and physical energy to be present for your child.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Barkley, R. (1998). Your Defiant Child: Eight Steps to Better Behavior. New York: Guilford.
Cline, F. (1991). Hope for High Risk and Rage Filled Children. Evergreen, CO: EC Publications.
Dinkmeyer, D., and G. McKay (1989). Systematic Training for Effective Parenting (STEP). Circle Pines, MN: American Guidance Service.
Schooler, J. (1993). The Whole Life Adoption Book. Colorado Springs, CO: Pinon Press.
Thomas, N. (1997). When Love Is Not Enough. Glenwood Springs, CO: Families by Design.
Welch, M. (1988). Holding Time. New York: Simon and Schuster.
Career Preparation
Parenting is a multifaceted journey that involves nurturing a child’s physical, emotional, intellectual, and social development. One crucial aspect of this journey is preparing your child for their future career. Parenting skills training equips parents with the tools and knowledge to support their children’s growth effectively, including guiding them toward successful careers.
Investing time in parenting skills training significantly impacts your child’s ability to prepare for and succeed in their future career. By fostering a supportive environment, enhancing communication, and guiding them through the complexities of personal and professional development, you set the foundation for their long-term success. Remember, every child is unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach. Stay adaptable, keep learning, and continue to provide the love and support your child needs to thrive.
Effective communication fosters a healthy parent-child relationship. It encourages children to express their thoughts and feelings openly, which is essential for personal and professional success. Teaching children to understand and manage their emotions helps them navigate social complexities in the workplace. Parents play a pivotal role in shaping a child’s values, integrity, and work ethic—all critical factors in career success. Active parental involvement in education boosts academic performance, opening doors to better career opportunities.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
ACT Inc. (1994). ACT Career Planning Program. Iowa City, IA: The American College Testing Program.
Fiske, E. (2004). The Fiske Guide to Colleges 2005. Naperville, IL: Sourcebooks Inc.
Holland, J. (2001). The Career Interest Game. Tampa Bay, FL: Psychological Assessment Resources Inc. (http://career.missouri.edu/Holland/).
Michigan Occupational Information System (MOIS; 2004). Mason, MI: Ingham Intermediate School District. (www.mois.org).
Character Development
Parenting is a continuous journey of learning and growth. Enhancing your parenting skills and focusing on your child’s character development can lead to a more fulfilling family life and set your child up for future success. Below are strategies and insights to help you on this journey.
Enhancing your parenting skills and focusing on character development is a rewarding process that benefits both you and your child. By implementing the following strategies, you create a nurturing environment that promotes growth, learning, and strong family bonds.
Teach Your Children Core Values:
Identify Key Values: Determine the values most important to your family, such as respect, integrity, and compassion.
Storytelling: Use stories and real-life examples to illustrate these values.
Foster Empathy:
Perspective-Taking: Encourage your child to consider how others feel in various situations.
Community Service: Participate in volunteer activities together.
Promote & Nurture Resilience:
Embrace Challenges: Teach your child that setbacks are opportunities to learn.
Supportive Environment: Offer support while encouraging problem-solving skills.
Develop, Improve & Practice Social Skills:
Group Activities: Involve your child in team sports or group projects.
Communication Skills: Practice polite conversation and active listening.
Encourage Critical & Ethical Thinking:
Moral Discussions: Engage in conversations about right and wrong.
Skepticism: Teach them how to find and evaluate evidence to support a thesis or argument.
Ethical Dilemmas: Present age-appropriate scenarios and discuss possible solutions.
Additional Tips:
Continue Learning: Stay informed about child development and parenting techniques through books, seminars, or online resources.
Seek Professional Support: Don’t hesitate to seek advice from educators or counselors if needed.
Practice Self-Care: Remember to take care of your own well-being to be the best parent you can be.
Websites:
The clinician will recommend the following books:
“The Whole-Brain Child” by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
“How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk” by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
Cline, F., and J. Fay (1990). Parenting with Love and Logic. Colorado Springs, CO: Navpress.
Gordon, T. (1989). Teaching Children Self-Discipline. New York: Random House.
Greer, C., and H. Kohl (1997). A Call to Character: A Family Treasury of Stories, Poems, Plays, Proverbs and Fables to Guide the Development of Values for You and Your Children. New York: HarperCollins
Pipher, M. (1995). Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls. New York: Ballantine Books.
Children with Physical Challenges
Parenting skills training for a child with physical challenges emphasizes cultivating resilience, adaptive strategies, and strong communication within the family to support the child’s unique needs and development. Training often includes fostering a growth mindset in both parents and children, encouraging independence while understanding and respecting physical limitations. Parents learn how to create an inclusive, accessible environment at home, while promoting social engagement and self-advocacy for their child. Training may also cover collaborative problem-solving techniques and stress management, as navigating the additional demands on parents and siblings can be emotionally taxing. With a compassionate approach, parents are empowered to advocate for their child’s needs, ensuring access to educational and recreational opportunities, while fostering a nurturing environment where the child can thrive emotionally and socially.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Chapman, G. (1992). The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. Chicago: Northfield Publishing.
Hickman, L. (2000). Living in My Skin: The Insider’s View of Life with a Special Needs Child. San Antonio, TX: Communication Skill Builders.
Lavin, J. L. (2001). Special Kids Need Special Parents: A Resource for Parents of Children with Special Needs. New York: Berkley Books.
McHugh, M. (2002). Special Siblings: Growing Up with Someone with a Disability. Baltimore: Paul H. Brookes.
Meyer, D. (1997). Views from Our Shoes: Growing Up with a Brother or Sister with Special Needs. Bethesda, MD: Woodbine House.
Naseef, R. (1997). “Journaling Your Way Through Stress: Finding Answers Within Yourself.” (article available at www.specialchild.com/family.html) Santa Clarita, CA: The Resource Foundation for
Children with Challenges.
Conduct Disorder/Delinquent Behavior
Parenting skills training for children with Conduct Disorder or delinquent behavior focuses on helping parents develop strategies to manage and improve their child’s behavior through consistent, positive discipline and reinforcement techniques. It includes teaching parents to set clear expectations, establish consistent rules, and respond to misbehavior calmly and effectively. Parents learn to reinforce positive behaviors with rewards, apply appropriate consequences for negative actions, and foster emotional communication to strengthen the parent-child relationship. The goal is to reduce aggressive, impulsive, or rule-breaking behaviors by enhancing parental support, structure, and positive engagement, which ultimately promotes healthier social and behavioral outcomes for the child.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Barkley, R. (1998). Your Defiant Child: Eight Steps to Better Behavior. New York: Guilford Press.
Dinkmeyer, D., and G. McKay (1989). Systematic Training for Effective Parenting (STEP). Circle Pines, MN: American Guidance Service.
Dreikurs, R., and V. Stoltz (1964). Children: The Challenge. New York: Plume Printing.
Forehand, R., and N. Long (1996) Parenting the Strong-Willed Child. New York: NTC Publishing Group.
Greene, R. (1998). The Explosive Child. New York: HarperCollins
Koplewicz, H. (1996). It’s Nobody’s Fault: New Hope and Help for Difficult Children. New York: Random House.
Dependent Children/Overprotective Parent
Parenting skills training for a child with dependent tendencies and an overprotective parent focuses on fostering the child’s independence, resilience, and self-confidence. This training helps parents recognize and adjust behaviors that may unintentionally encourage dependency, such as excessive monitoring or intervening too quickly. Parents learn to balance providing support with allowing their child to experience manageable challenges, promoting skills like problem-solving and decision-making. Techniques often include setting age-appropriate boundaries, encouraging gradual autonomy, and using positive reinforcement for self-sufficient behaviors. Through these methods, the child can develop the skills needed to navigate life independently, while parents learn to trust in their child’s ability to grow and succeed on their own.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Cline, F., and J. Fay (1990). Parenting with Love and Logic. Colorado Springs, CO: Navpress.
Dreikurs, R., and V. Stoltz (1964). Children: The Challenge. New York: Plume Printing.
Fay, J. (1986). Helicopters, Drill Sergeants, and Consultants. Golden, CO: The Love and Logic Press. (Audiotape)
Fay, J., F. Cline, and C. Fay (2000). Becoming a Love and Logic Parent. Golden, CO: The Love and Logic Press.
Moorman, C. (1998). Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound. Merrill, MI: Personal Power Press.
Depression
Parenting skills training for a child with depression focuses on building a supportive, understanding, and structured environment that promotes open communication and emotional safety. Parents are taught to recognize symptoms of depression, manage their own emotional responses, and respond empathetically to their child’s needs. Training often includes strategies for fostering positive routines, encouraging engagement in enjoyable activities, setting realistic expectations, and improving problem-solving skills within the family. Additionally, parents learn how to reinforce coping mechanisms and help the child identify and challenge negative thought patterns. This supportive framework helps create a stable foundation that aids the child in managing depressive symptoms and building resilience over time.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Cline, F. and J. Fay (1990). Parenting with Love and Logic. Colorado Springs, CO: Navpress.
Dubuque, S. (1996). Survival Guide to Childhood Depression. Secaucus, NJ: Childswork/Childsplay.
Faber, A. and E. Mazlish (1982). How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk. New York: Avon Books.
Fassler, D., and L. Dumas (1998). ‘Help Me I’m Sad’: Recognizing, Treating, and Preventing Childhood and Adolescent Depression. New York: Penguin USA.
Divorce/Separation
Parenting skills training for a child with divorced parents focuses on fostering a cooperative, supportive environment between the co-parents to benefit the child’s emotional and developmental needs. This training helps parents prioritize open, respectful communication and consistent parenting approaches across households to reduce confusion and maintain stability for the child. Key skills include conflict resolution, emotional regulation, and empathy, enabling parents to address challenges without involving the child in adult issues. Additionally, parents learn strategies to support the child’s adjustment, build resilience, and ensure they feel secure, loved, and valued in both family settings.
Here are some key areas that can help divorced parents work together to co-parent effectively:
Encourage open, age-appropriate communication between the child and both parents. Discuss household rules, expectations, and parenting styles to align on consistency between homes, reducing potential confusion or distress for the child.
Effective co-parenting involves cooperative problem-solving and a commitment to respect each other’s role as parents. It’s crucial to keep communication with the ex-spouse child-centered and focused on parenting goals rather than personal conflicts. Tools like parenting apps can help maintain clear communication channels.
Children are highly attuned to parental emotions. Provide them with reassurance, emphasize their security and belonging, and avoid sharing adult issues or grievances. Modeling emotional self-regulation can help children learn resilience and coping skills.
Divorce often involves changes, which can disrupt a child’s sense of stability. Creating consistent routines, particularly during transitions between homes, helps children feel grounded and secure. Discuss these routines with the co-parent to provide a similar structure in both homes when possible.
When conflict arises, model healthy conflict resolution skills for the child. Conflict between parents can sometimes escalate into high-conflict situations post-divorce, which is a significant stressor for children. If necessary, consider family therapy or co-parenting counseling to mitigate and manage conflict.
Encourage your child’s relationship with the other parent to be positive and respectful. Children should not feel pressured to take sides or hear negative comments about either parent. Avoid using the child as a messenger, as this can create stress or an uncomfortable sense of responsibility.
Self-care and emotional well-being are essential for parents navigating post-divorce stressors. Ensuring personal stability and seeking support can provide parents with the energy and patience needed for parenting and handling co-parenting challenges.
Therapeutic interventions like family therapy, child counseling, or parenting workshops can be valuable resources. Therapists trained in child psychology, divorce adjustment, or family systems therapy can provide tailored support, practical tools, and conflict management strategies to enhance the child’s adjustment and well-being.
Helping children of divorced parents thrive involves cooperative co-parenting, a stable environment, emotional support, and proactive involvement in their adjustment process. Focusing on resilience-building and structured support can help children develop a healthy adaptation to their new family structure.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Baris, M., and C. Garrity. (1988). Children of Divorce: A Developmental Approach to Residence and Visitation. Dekalb, IL: Psytec Corp.
Baris, M., and C. Garrity (1997). Caught in the Middle. San Francisco, CA: Jossey-Bass.
Fay, J., F. Cline, and C. Fay (2000). Becoming a Love and Logic Parent. Golden, CO: The Love and Logic Press.
Faber, A., and E. Mazlish (1982). How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk. New York: Avon Books.
Gordon, T. (2000). Parent Effectiveness Training. New York: Three Rivers Press.
Moorman, C., and S. Knapp (1998). The Parent Talk System: The Language of Responsible Parenting. Merrill, MI: Personal Power Press.
Stern, Z., E. Stern, and E. Stern (1997). Divorce Is Not the End of the World: Zoe’s and Evan’s Coping Guide for Kids. New York: Tricycle Press.
Teyber, E. (1992). Helping Children Cope with Divorce. San Francisco, CA: Jossey-Bass Publishers.
Eating Disorder
Parenting skills training for children with eating disorders focuses on equipping parents with strategies to support their child’s recovery, emphasizing compassion, effective communication, and fostering a healthy environment around food and body image. Training typically includes understanding the psychological and physiological aspects of eating disorders, setting boundaries and routines around mealtimes, and learning to respond constructively to emotional distress and resistance. Parents learn to model healthy behaviors, avoid critical language, and encourage positive body image and self-esteem in their child. The goal is to create a supportive, non-judgmental environment that nurtures recovery, reduces stress, and promotes healthy coping skills.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Faber, A., and E. Mazlish (1982). How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk. New York: Avon Books.
Siegel, M., J. Brisman, and M. Weinshel (1997). Surviving an Eating Disorder: Perspectives and Strategies for Family and Friends. New York: Perennial Press.
Waterhouse, D. (1997). Like Mother, Like Daughter: How Women Are Influenced by Their Mother’s Relationship with Food and How to Break the Pattern. New York: Hyperion Press.
Gifted/Talented
Parenting skills training for gifted and talented children focuses on supporting their unique emotional, social, and intellectual needs while fostering a balanced and fulfilling upbringing. This training helps parents understand the intense curiosity, sensitivity, and sometimes asynchronous development that can characterize giftedness, equipping them with strategies to nurture their child’s intellectual abilities alongside social skills and resilience. Parents learn techniques for managing high expectations, encouraging healthy risk-taking, and fostering adaptability, self-regulation, and emotional intelligence, allowing the child to flourish both personally and academically.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Brown-Miller, A. (1994). Learning to Learn: Ways to Nurture Your Child’s Intelligence. New York: Plenum Press.
Cline, F., and J. Fay (1990). Parenting with Love and Logic. Colorado Springs, CO: Navpress.
Dinkemeyer, D., and G. McKay (1989). Systematic Training for Effective Parenting (STEP). Circle Pines, MN: American Guidance Service.
Galbraith, J. (1996). The Gifted Kid Survival Guide: A Teen Handbook. Minneapolis, MN: Free Spirit Publishing.
Galbraith, J. (1998). The Gifted Kid Survival Guide: Ages 10 and Under. Minneapolis, MN: Free Spirit Publishing.
Moorman, C., and S. Knapp (2001). The Parent Talk System: The Language of Responsible Parenting. Merrill, MI: Personal Power Press.
Rimm, S. (1990). How to Parent so Children Will Learn. Watertown, WI: Apple Publishing Company.
Grandparenting Strategies
Parenting skills training for grandparents equips them with modern strategies and insights to support their grandchildren’s growth while respecting the evolving dynamics of today’s parenting. This training often covers topics such as effective communication, discipline techniques that emphasize positive reinforcement, and guidance on managing behavioral challenges without relying on punitive methods. It also addresses the importance of understanding developmental stages, fostering emotional intelligence, and establishing nurturing relationships that promote security and trust. By integrating these approaches, grandparents can bridge generational gaps and foster positive, supportive roles in their grandchildren’s lives, enriching family bonds across generations.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Cline, F., and J. Fay (1994). Grandparenting with Love and Logic. Golden, CO: The Love and Logic Press.
Coloroso, B. (1994). Kids Are Worth It! Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline. Toronto: The Penguin Group.
Coloroso, B. (1999). Parenting with Wit and Wisdom in Times of Chaos and Loss. New York: William Morrow and Company.
Fay, J., R. Cline, and C. Fay (2000). Becoming a Love and Logic Parent. Golden, CO: The Love and Logic Press.
Linsley, L. (1997). Totally Cool Grandparenting: A Practical Handbook of Tips, Hints, Activities for the Modern Grandparent. New York: St. Martin’s Press.
Wiggin, E., and G. Chapman (2001). The Gift of Grandparenting: Building Meaningful Relationships with Your Grandchildren. New York: Tyndale House Publishers.
Grief/Loss
Parenting skills training for grief and loss focuses on equipping parents with tools to support children coping with bereavement and loss, fostering emotional resilience within the family. This training helps parents understand the unique ways children process grief at different developmental stages, guiding them in addressing emotions like sadness, anger, confusion, and fear that can arise. Parents learn to provide a safe environment for open discussions about death and loss, helping children feel validated in their emotions. The training also emphasizes self-care for parents, encouraging them to model healthy grieving practices and stability, promoting a nurturing family atmosphere that supports healing for everyone involved.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Bissler, J. (1997). The Way Children Grieve. www.counselingforloss.com: Counseling for Loss and Life Changes.
Buscaglia, L. (1985). The Fall of Freddie the Leaf. Chatsworth, CA: AIMS Media.
Clayton, J. (1997). Lessons from Geese. www.counselingforloss.com: Counseling For Loss and Life Changes.
Coloroso, B. (1999). Parenting with Wit and Wisdom in Times of Chaos and Loss. Toronto, Ontario: Penguin Group.
Faber, A., and E. Mazlish (1982) How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk. New York: Avon Books.
Gardner, R. (1973). The Talking, Feeling, and Doing Game. Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics, Inc.
Grollman, E. (1967). Explaining Death to Children. Boston: Beacon Press.
Metzgar, M. (1996). Developmental Considerations Concerning Children’s Grief. Seattle WA: SIDS Foundation of Washington (www.kidsource.com).
Maberly, K. (1993). The Secret Garden. Los Angeles, CA: Warner Studios (DVD)
Moser, A. (1996), Don’t Despair on Thursdays. Kansas City, MO: Landmark Editions.
Walt Disney Home Entertainment. (2003). The Lion King. Burbank, CA: Buena Vista Home Entertainment, Inc. (Video)
Zakich, R. (1989). The Ungame. New York: Talicor.
Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD)
Parenting skills training for oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) focuses on equipping parents with techniques to manage challenging behaviors and build positive relationships with their children. Training often includes methods to reinforce desirable behaviors, set clear and consistent limits, and apply effective consequences for rule-breaking while maintaining a calm and supportive approach. Parents learn to implement positive reinforcement, ignore minor misbehaviors to reduce attention-seeking actions, and practice active listening to improve communication. These strategies aim to reduce conflicts and create a structured environment, helping children with ODD develop self-regulation, respect for boundaries, and improved social interactions.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Barkley, R. (1998). Your Defiant Child: Eight Steps to Better Behavior. New York: Guilford.
Fay, J., F. Cline, and C. Fay. )2000). Becoming a Love and Logic Parent. Golden, CO: The Love and Logic Press.
Forehand, R., and N. Long. (1996). Parenting the Strong-Willed Child. New York: NTC Publishing Group.
Greene, R. (1998). The Explosive Child. New York: HarperCollins.
Koplewicz, H. (1996). It’s Nobody’s Fault: New Hope and Help for Difficult Children. New York: Random House.
Mannix, D. (1996). Life Skills Activities for Secondary Students with Special Needs. New York: Jossey-Bass.
Moorman, C. (1998). Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound. Merrill, MI: Personal Power Press.
Moorman, C. and S. Knapp (2001). The Parent Talk System: The Language of Responsible Parenting. Merrill, MI: Personal Power Press.
Moser, A. (1988). Don’t Pop Your Cork on Mondays! Kansas City, MO: Landmark Editions.
Peer Relationships/Influences
Parenting skills training focused on peer relationships emphasizes the role parents play in guiding children’s social development and fostering positive peer interactions. This training helps parents understand how to support their child’s social skills, navigate peer-related challenges, and encourage healthy, respectful friendships. By modeling effective communication, empathy, and conflict resolution, parents can positively influence their child’s relationships with peers. Additionally, these skills can promote resilience against peer pressure and bullying, enabling children to build supportive social networks. Parents learn strategies to create a home environment that values trust, inclusivity, and cooperation, helping children thrive socially and emotionally.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Abern, A. (1994). Everything I Do You Blame on Me. Plainview, NY: Childswork/Childsplay, LLC.
Giannetti, C., and M. Sagarese (2001). Cliques: 8 Steps to Help Your Child Survive the Social Jungle. New York: Broadway Books.
Gordon, T. (1989). Teaching Children Self-Discipline at Home and at School. New York: Random House.
Meyers, W. (1992). Mop, Moondance, and the Nagasaki Knights. New York: Delacorte Press.
Ogen, S. (2001). Words Will Never Hurt Me. Los Angeles, CA: Elton-Wolfe Publishing.
Thompson, M., C. O’Neill, and L. Cohen (2001). Best Friends, Worst Enemies: Understanding the Social Lives of Children. New York: Ballantine Books.
Posttraumatic Stress Disorder
Parenting skills training for individuals with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) focuses on equipping parents with strategies to build a supportive, structured, and emotionally safe environment for their children. This training emphasizes stress management, emotional regulation, and effective communication skills to help parents manage PTSD symptoms that might otherwise interfere with their parenting. It also includes techniques for building resilience, strengthening parent-child bonds, and fostering a sense of security within the family. By addressing trauma-related challenges and providing practical tools, parenting skills training for PTSD helps parents create a nurturing atmosphere where children can thrive despite the complexities of living with a parent’s trauma.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Faber, A., and E. Mazlish (1982). How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk. New York: Avon Books.
Gordon, T. (2000). Parent Effectiveness Training. New York: Three Rivers Press.
Manassis, K. (1996). Keys to Parenting Your Anxious Child. New York: Barrons Educational Series.
Schmidt, F., A. Friedman, E. Brunt, and T. Solotoff (1996). Peacemaking Skills for Little Kids. Miami, FL: Peace Education Foundation.
Spencer, E., R. DuPont, and C. DuPont (2003). The Anxiety Cure for Kids: A Guide for Parents. New York: John Wiley and Sons.
Poverty-Related Issues
Parenting skills training for families facing poverty-related challenges is essential in supporting parents’ ability to foster a stable, nurturing environment amidst financial stressors. Training programs focus on enhancing parents’ skills in positive discipline, emotional regulation, effective communication, and stress management, which are crucial for maintaining supportive relationships with their children despite economic hardship. These programs often provide resources on accessing community support, managing limited resources, and navigating systemic barriers that may exacerbate stress. By equipping parents with these skills, the training helps mitigate the negative impacts of poverty on family dynamics, child development, and overall family well-being.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Alliance for Children and Families (1998). FAST: Families and Schools Together. Milwaukee, WI: Alliance for Children and Families.
Cline, F., and J. Fay (1990). Parenting with Love and Logic. Colorado Springs, CO: Navpress.
Fay, J., R. Cline, and C. Fay (2000). Becoming a Love and Logic Parent. Golden, CO: The Love and Logic Press.
Moorman, C. (1998). Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound. Merrill, MI: Personal Power Press.
Payne, R. (1998). A Framework for Understanding Poverty. Highlands, TX: RFT Publishing Co.
Schmidt, F., A. Friedman, E. Brunt, and T. Solotoff (1996). Peacemaking Skills for Little Kids. Miami, FL: Peace Education Foundation.
Parenting Skills Training: Prenatal Parenting Preparation
Prenatal parenting preparation equips expectant parents with essential skills to nurture their child’s development even before birth. This training focuses on cultivating a supportive environment, emphasizing emotional readiness, stress management, and healthy lifestyle choices. Parents learn about prenatal attachment, the impact of their physical and emotional health on the baby, and strategies for fostering a strong parent-child bond. By integrating knowledge about child development and self-care practices, prenatal parenting training empowers parents to provide a secure foundation for their child’s growth, starting from the earliest stages.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Brazelton, B. (1992). Touchpoints: Your Child’s Emotional and Behavioral Development. Reading, MA: Addison-Wesley.
Churchill Films (1992). Expect More Than a Baby! Los Angeles, CA. (Video)
Curtis, G., and J. Schuler (2000). Your Pregnancy Week by Week. Cambridge, MA: Fisher.
Eisenberg, A., H. Mrukoff, and S. Hathaway (1996). What to Expect When You’re Expecting. New York: Workman Publishing.
Lifestart Multimedia Corp. (1997). The Baby System: Pregnancy and Birth (Video and Book). Salt Lake City, UT: Lifestart Multimedia Corp.
Moorman, C., and S. Knapp (2001). The Parent Talk System: The Language of Responsible Parenting. Merrill, MI: Personal Power Press.
Parenting Skills Training: School Adjustment Difficulties
Parenting skills training can be highly beneficial for addressing school adjustment difficulties in children, which may manifest as anxiety, behavioral issues, social withdrawal, or academic struggles when adapting to a new school environment or transitioning between educational stages. By enhancing their parenting techniques, parents can better support their children through these challenges.
One way parenting skills training helps is by teaching effective communication techniques. Parents learn active listening, which involves paying close attention to their child’s concerns without immediate judgment or solutions. Encouraging open dialogue allows children to express their feelings about school, peers, and teachers, fostering a trusting relationship where they feel heard and understood.
Behavior management strategies are another key component. Positive reinforcement involves acknowledging and rewarding desirable behaviors to encourage their recurrence, while consistent discipline means establishing clear rules and consequences to provide a structured environment. These approaches help children understand expectations and feel secure.
Providing emotional support is also crucial. Developing empathy enables parents to understand and validate their child’s emotions, which builds trust. Teaching stress reduction techniques, such as deep breathing or mindfulness exercises, equips children with coping mechanisms to handle anxiety or stress related to school.
Collaboration with educators plays a significant role in addressing school adjustment difficulties. Regular communication with teachers allows parents to monitor progress and address issues promptly. If necessary, working with the school to create individualized education plans can provide tailored support to meet the child’s specific needs.
Establishing routines can provide stability and reduce anxiety. Setting consistent times for homework, meals, and bedtime helps create a structured schedule. Preparing for transitions by discussing upcoming changes reduces uncertainty and helps the child feel more in control.
Parents can also benefit from staying involved in their child’s academic life by participating in school events and showing interest. Setting realistic expectations encourages effort over perfection, reducing pressure on the child. Promoting social skills by facilitating opportunities for the child to interact with peers outside of school can help them build friendships and feel more connected.
Various resources are available for parents seeking additional support. Parenting workshops offered by local community centers or schools provide classes on effective parenting strategies. Professional counseling from child psychologists or family therapists can offer personalized guidance.
Online courses and webinars provide accessible training modules, and support groups allow parents to connect with others facing similar challenges. Remember, every child is unique, and it may take time to find the most effective strategies. Patience, consistency, and a supportive approach are key components in helping your child adjust to school successfully.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Cline, F., and J. Fay (1990). Parenting with Love and Logic. Colorado Springs, CO: Navpress.
Darcey, J., L. Tiore, and G. Ladd.(2000). Your Anxious Child: How Parents and Teachers Can Relieve Anxiety in Children. San Francisco, CA: Jossey-Bass.
Dinkmeyer, D., and G. McKay (1989). Systematic Training for Effective Parenting (STEP). Circle Pines, MN: American Guidance Service.
Fay, J. (1988). Helicopters, Drill Sergeants, and Consultants. Golden, CO: Cline/Fay Institute, Inc. (Audiotape)
McEwan, E. (1998). When Kids Say No to School: Helping Children at Risk of Failure, Refusal or Dropping Out. Harold Shaw Publishing.
Moorman, C. (1998). Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound. Merrill, MI: Personal Power Press.
Moorman, C., and S. Knapp. (2001). The Parent Talk System: The Language of Responsible Parenting. Merrill, MI: Personal Power Press.
Parenting Skills Training: Sexual Responsibility
When approaching parenting skills training to address healthy and unhealthy sexual behavior, it’s crucial to create an open, honest, and age-appropriate environment. Parents need tools to foster a home where children and adolescents feel safe asking questions and learning about sexuality in a way that promotes healthy boundaries, respect, and awareness.
Understanding Healthy Sexual Development
Healthy sexual behavior in children follows predictable developmental patterns. Parents benefit from understanding these stages, knowing that children are naturally curious, and exploring body differences and similarities is normal, especially in early childhood. Emphasizing privacy, respect for others, and appropriate boundaries helps parents guide children without causing shame or fear. It’s essential for parents to normalize discussions on these topics by providing accurate, age-appropriate information, which helps children develop a positive and respectful view of their bodies and the bodies of others.
Addressing Unhealthy Sexual Behavior
Unhealthy or concerning sexual behavior can be defined as actions that are coercive, intrusive, or age-inappropriate. Parents should be equipped with skills to recognize signs of unhealthy behavior, which may require redirection, counseling, or more in-depth intervention. Parents benefit from understanding that unhealthy sexual behaviors may sometimes reflect underlying issues, such as exposure to inappropriate material, trauma, or other adverse experiences. Training should help parents respond to such behaviors calmly and provide clear, firm boundaries to correct the behavior without shaming the child.
Strategies for Parents to Foster Healthy Sexual Development
Model Open Communication: Parents can create an environment where questions are welcome and provide clear, age-appropriate responses. Talking openly and positively about bodies, boundaries, and respect sets a strong foundation for healthy attitudes toward sexuality.
Educate on Boundaries and Consent: Children should understand that they have autonomy over their bodies. Teaching them about consent, saying “no,” and respecting others’ boundaries are foundational skills that help prevent unhealthy behaviors.
Use Correct Anatomical Terms: Teaching children the correct names for body parts empowers them to speak clearly if they need to communicate about themselves, which has been shown to be protective in cases of abuse.
Encourage Critical Thinking and Media Literacy: In today’s digital world, children are exposed to a significant amount of media, some of which can distort perceptions of sexuality. Parents can foster critical thinking by discussing media content and encouraging children to question and think critically about what they see and hear.
Monitor Exposure to Sexual Content: Parents should be vigilant about the media and online content children have access to, especially in early childhood. Using parental controls, discussing safe internet use, and encouraging open communication around accidental or deliberate exposure to inappropriate material can help children navigate online spaces safely.
Responding to Unhealthy Sexual Behavior
When concerning behaviors arise, parenting training can guide parents in a non-judgmental, constructive response. This includes calmly setting boundaries, explaining the reasons for these boundaries, and seeking additional support when needed. Parents should feel empowered to involve mental health professionals if behaviors are repeated, intense, or seem beyond what is developmentally expected.
Supporting Parents’ Well-being and Confidence
Parenting skills training should address the importance of self-awareness and well-being for parents. Parents who feel confident in their knowledge and approach to discussing sexual behavior are better able to support their children effectively. Building parental confidence includes encouraging regular self-reflection, identifying personal attitudes and beliefs about sexuality, and helping parents recognize when they might need support in managing these discussions.
Professional Guidance and Support
Parents may benefit from discussing these topics with professionals, especially if they feel overwhelmed or uncertain. Therapists can provide strategies, support, and, when necessary, intervention recommendations to help families establish and maintain healthy norms around sexuality and boundaries.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Alfred Higgins Productions (1989). Sex Myths and Facts (rev.) Los Angeles, CA. (Video)
Alfred Higgins Productions (1995). Teens at Risk: Breaking the Immortality Myth. Los Angeles, CA. (Video)
Bell, R. (1998). Changing Bodies, Changing Lives: Expanded Third Edition: A Book for Teens on Sex and Relationships. New York: Three Rivers Press.
Copperfield Films (1981). Dear Diary. Boston: Copperfield Films. (Video)
Gordon, S., and J. Gordon (1989). Raising a Child Conservatively in a Sexually Permissive World. New York: Fireside Books.
Hansen, G. (1996). Sexual Integrity for Teens. Lexington, KY: Kentucky Cooperative Extension Service. www.agnr.umd.edu/nnfr/adolsex/fact/adolsex_integ.html.
Mercer, R. (2001). Adolescent Sexuality and Childbearing. Sunnyvale, CA: Video Productions. (Video)
M.L. Video Productions. (1997). Everyone Is Not Doing It. Durham, NC: M.L. Video Productions. (Video)
Scott, S. (1997). How to Say No and Keep Your Friends. Highland Ranch, CO: HRC Press.
United Learning. (1990). Matter of Choice: A Program Confronting Teenage Sexual Abuse. Niles, IL: United Learning. (Video)
Parenting Skills Training: Sibling Rivalry
Sibling rivalry is a common occurrence in families with more than one child, encompassing feelings of jealousy, competition, and conflict among siblings. While some degree of rivalry is normal and can help children develop important social skills, excessive conflict can disrupt family harmony and impact children’s emotional well-being. Effective parenting strategies can mitigate these issues and foster positive relationships between siblings.
Understanding the roots of sibling rivalry is crucial for managing it effectively. Children often compete for parental attention, feeling the need to secure their parents’ love and recognition. Individual differences such as variations in age, temperament, and interests can lead to misunderstandings or jealousy. Perceived favoritism, where a child believes another sibling is favored, can intensify rivalry. Additionally, stressful changes like moving, divorce, or the arrival of a new baby can heighten tensions among siblings.
To address sibling rivalry, parents can promote individuality by acknowledging each child’s unique strengths and celebrating their talents and interests without comparison. Providing personal space and opportunities for each child to have time alone and with friends is also important. Establishing clear family rules regarding behavior expectations, respectful communication, and conflict resolution sets guidelines for interactions. Consistent enforcement of these rules, applied fairly to all children, prevents perceptions of favoritism.
Encouraging cooperative play and activities can foster teamwork among siblings. Engaging children in tasks that require collaboration and holding regular family meetings where everyone can voice concerns and propose solutions are beneficial practices. Teaching conflict resolution skills—such as using “I feel” statements to express emotions and guiding them through identifying issues, brainstorming solutions, and agreeing on resolutions—equips children with tools to manage disagreements constructively.
Modeling positive behavior is another effective strategy. Parents can demonstrate empathy by showing understanding and compassion in their interactions and handle conflicts calmly, exhibiting effective strategies when dealing with their own disagreements. Providing equal attention by spending individual time with each child strengthens the parent-child relationship and avoids comparisons that can foster resentment.
Praising positive interactions between siblings reinforces good behavior. Acknowledging when siblings share, help each other, or resolve conflicts peacefully, and expressing appreciation for their efforts to get along encourages them to continue these behaviors. Managing negative behavior appropriately involves staying neutral in minor disputes, avoiding taking sides, and setting consequences for aggressive or harmful behavior.
Educating children about emotions enhances their ability to navigate relationships. Helping them identify and understand their feelings and teaching coping strategies like deep breathing or taking a break when overwhelmed can improve emotional literacy. Preparing for changes by maintaining open communication about upcoming events that might affect family dynamics and involving children in planning reduces anxiety and helps them adjust.
If sibling rivalry leads to persistent aggression, emotional distress, or impacts daily functioning, it may be necessary to seek professional help. Consulting a child psychologist or family therapist can provide personalized strategies and support. Additional resources such as parenting workshops, books, articles, and support groups can also offer valuable guidance and allow parents to connect with others who share similar experiences.
Addressing sibling rivalry requires patience, consistency, and a proactive approach. By fostering a supportive environment and equipping children with the skills to navigate their relationships, parents can reduce conflicts and promote a harmonious household.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Blume, J., and I. Trivas (1984). Pain and the Great One. New York: Simon and Schuster.
Covey, S. (1997). The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families: Building a Beautiful Family Culture in a Turbulent World. New York: Golden Books Publishing Co.
Crary, E., and M. Katayama (Illustrator) (1996). Help! The Kids Are at It Again: Using Kids’ Quarrels to Teach “People” Skills. Seattle, WA: Parenting Press.
Faber, A. and Mazlish, E. (1982). How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk. New York: Avon Books.
Faber, A., and Mazlish, E. (1998). Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together so You Can Live Too. New York: Avon Books.
Mario, H. (1998). I’d Rather Have an Iguana. Watertown, MA: Charlesbridge Publishing.
Parenting Skills Training: Single Parenting
Parenting as a single parent presents unique challenges, but with the right support and resources, it can also be incredibly rewarding. Enhancing your parenting skills can help you navigate these challenges more effectively, fostering a nurturing environment for your children and strengthening your family bond.
Single parents often grapple with time management, balancing work, household responsibilities, and parenting duties, which can be overwhelming. Emotional stress is another common hurdle; the absence of a co-parent may lead to feelings of isolation or anxiety. Financial strain can add to the burden, as managing a household on a single income is often challenging. Without a partner, opportunities for respite or assistance may be limited, resulting in a smaller support network.
Despite these challenges, parenting skills training offers numerous benefits. It can equip you with strategies to communicate better with your children, enhancing your ability to convey expectations and understand their needs. You’ll gain tools to address and guide your child’s behavior positively, promoting a harmonious household.
Understanding how to support your child’s emotional needs while managing your own is crucial, and these programs often emphasize emotional intelligence and resilience. Additionally, such training can help you connect with other single parents, fostering a sense of community and mutual support.
There are various resources available for parenting skills training. Local community centers and non-profit organizations, such as the YMCA or YWCA, often offer parenting classes and workshops tailored to single parents. Family resource centers provide programs focusing on parenting skills, child development, and overall family well-being. Many religious organizations, including churches, mosques, and synagogues, offer support groups and parenting programs open to the community, regardless of religious affiliation.
Online courses and workshops are another accessible option. Programs like Positive Parenting Solutions offer online courses that you can take at your own pace, allowing for flexibility in your schedule. The Triple P (Positive Parenting Program) provides evidence-based parenting strategies online, helping you apply proven methods in your daily life. Love and Logic features webinars and resources focusing on raising responsible children, emphasizing a balanced approach to discipline and nurturing.
Government and social services can also be valuable resources. Your local Department of Family Services may offer free or low-cost parenting classes and workshops. Head Start Programs provide resources for parents of young children, including education on child development and early childhood education strategies. These programs are designed to support families in creating a positive and enriching home environment.
Support groups specifically for single parents can provide both practical advice and emotional support. Organizations like Single & Parenting offer nationwide programs where you can share experiences and learn from others facing similar situations. Websites like Meetup.com allow you to search for single parent groups in your area, facilitating connections and fostering community engagement.
Books and online resources offer additional guidance and support. “The Single Parent Resource” by Brook Noel is a comprehensive guide covering various aspects of single parenting, from daily routines to long-term planning. “The Complete Single Mother” by Andrea Engber and Leah Klungness offers practical advice and encouragement, addressing common concerns and challenges. Online forums, such as Single Parents on Reddit, provide community support and shared experiences, allowing you to engage with others at any time.
General tips for single parents include building a support network by reaching out to friends, family, or other parents for help when needed. Practicing self-care is essential; taking time for yourself helps you recharge and be a more effective parent. Establishing routines can provide security for your children and help manage daily expectations. It’s important to set realistic goals and acknowledge that it’s okay not to do everything perfectly. Open communication is key—encouraging honest conversations with your children about their feelings and yours can strengthen your relationship and foster trust.
Investing time in parenting skills training can significantly benefit both you and your children. These resources not only offer practical strategies but also connect you with a community that understands your experiences. Remember, seeking support is a sign of strength and a positive step toward creating a loving and stable environment for your family.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Fay, J., F. Cline, and C. Fay (2000). Becoming a Love and Logic Parent. Golden, CO: The Love and Logic Press.
Moorman, C., and S. Knapp (2001). The Parent Talk System: The Language of Responsible Parenting. Merrill, MI: Personal Power Press.
Noel, B., A. Klein, and A. Klein (1998). The Single Parent Resource. New York: Champion Pr. Ltd.
Peterson, M. (2003). Single Parenting for Dummies. New York: For Dummies.
Richmond, G. (1998). Successful Single Parenting. New York: Harvest House.
Teyber, E. (1992). Helping Children Cope with Divorce. San Francisco, CA: Jossey-Bass.
Parenting Skills Training: Spousal Roles and Relationship Conflict
Parenting is a rewarding yet challenging journey that often brings significant changes to a couple’s relationship. The transition to parenthood can sometimes lead to conflicts, especially regarding spousal roles and responsibilities. Parenting skills training can play a crucial role in helping couples navigate these challenges by enhancing communication, fostering mutual understanding, and promoting effective co-parenting strategies.
One key aspect is the importance of defining spousal roles. Clearly defined roles help prevent misunderstandings and unrealistic expectations. Couples should discuss and agree upon responsibilities related to childcare, household tasks, and work commitments. However, roles should be adaptable to accommodate changing circumstances, such as job demands or a child’s developmental needs. Sharing responsibilities fosters a sense of partnership and prevents feelings of resentment or imbalance, promoting equality and respect within the relationship.
Parenting skills training helps couples in several ways. It enhances communication by teaching effective techniques that enable partners to express their thoughts and feelings openly without judgment. Couples learn strategies for conflict resolution, allowing them to address disagreements constructively and focus on solutions rather than blame. Understanding child development through these programs helps parents set realistic expectations and reduces stress related to parenting challenges. Additionally, learning stress management techniques contributes to a calmer home environment and reduces the likelihood of conflicts escalating.
Addressing relationship conflict involves identifying triggers, as understanding what prompts conflicts can help couples address underlying issues. Providing mutual emotional support strengthens the relationship and creates a united front in parenting. In some cases, seeking professional guidance from a counselor or therapist can offer additional strategies for managing conflicts.
For successful co-parenting, couples should engage in regular check-ins to discuss parenting approaches and any concerns that arise. Presenting a unified approach with a consistent parenting style helps children understand expectations and reduces confusion. Prioritizing individual well-being through self-care ensures that both parents have the energy and patience needed for effective parenting.
In conclusion, parenting skills training offers valuable tools for couples to navigate the complexities of spousal roles and relationship conflicts. By investing time in these programs, couples can strengthen their relationship, create a supportive home environment, and foster healthy development for their children. If challenges persist, considering reaching out to a licensed family therapist for personalized support can be beneficial.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Carlson, R. (1998). Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff with Your Family. New York: Hyperion.
Chapman, G. (1995). The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. Chicago: Northfield Publishing.
Covey, S. (1997). The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families. New York: Golden Books.
Gordon, T. (2000). Parent Effectiveness Training. New York, NY, Three Rivers Press.
Henry, O. (1988). The Gift of the Magi. New York: Simon and Schuster.
McGraw, P. (2001). Relationship Rescue. New York: Hyperion Press.
Parenting Skills Training: Strategies for Preschoolers (Age Birth to Six)
Parenting skills training for preschoolers (birth to age six) focuses on building a strong foundation for child development and fostering healthy parent-child relationships. Here are key strategies and approaches:
Positive Reinforcement: Encourage desired behaviors by praising and rewarding them. Positive reinforcement can be verbal (e.g., “Great job sharing your toys!”) or through small rewards (e.g., extra playtime).
Consistency and Routine: Preschoolers thrive on routine. Consistent schedules for meals, naps, and bedtime provide a sense of security and predictability.
Clear and Simple Communication: Use simple language and clear instructions. Give one-step directions and ensure the child understands by asking them to repeat what you’ve said.
Set Clear Boundaries and Expectations: Establish simple, clear rules and be consistent in enforcing them. This helps children understand what is expected and learn self-discipline.
Model Behavior: Children learn by observing. Model behaviors you want to encourage, such as kindness, patience, and problem-solving.
Emotion Coaching (Coregulate): Help children identify and express their emotions. Use language to label feelings (e.g., “I see you’re feeling frustrated”) and teach appropriate ways to express them.
Positive Discipline Techniques: Use discipline strategies that promote learning and self-control rather than punishment. Techniques include time-outs, logical consequences, and redirection to appropriate activities.
Encourage Play and Exploration: Play is essential for learning. Provide opportunities for imaginative play, exploration, and creative activities that stimulate cognitive and motor development.
Develop Social Skills: Teach and practice social skills such as sharing, taking turns, and empathy. Arrange playdates and participate in group activities to encourage social interaction.
Effective Use of Time-Outs: Time-outs can be effective when used correctly. Keep them brief (one minute per year of age) and use them as a time for the child to calm down and reflect on their behavior.
Teach Problem-Solving Skills: Encourage children to think through problems and come up with solutions. Guide them with questions (e.g., “What could you do next time?”) to build their problem-solving abilities.
Active Listening: Show your child that you are listening by making eye contact, nodding, and repeating back what they’ve said. This helps them feel valued and understood.
Establish a Healthy Attachment: Build a secure attachment by being responsive and sensitive to your child’s needs. This forms the basis for trust and emotional security.
Encourage Independence: Allow your child to try new things and make choices within safe boundaries. This fosters self-confidence and decision-making skills.
Limit Screen Time: Set reasonable limits on screen time and encourage physical and imaginative play instead. Choose educational content and watch together when possible.
Self-Care for Parents: Take care of your own well-being. Managing stress and seeking support when needed enables you to be more present and effective in parenting.
Seeking Professional Guidance: If challenges arise that are difficult to manage, seek guidance from pediatricians, child psychologists, or parenting classes to gain additional strategies and support.
These strategies provide a comprehensive approach to parenting that promotes healthy development and a positive family environment during the preschool years.
The clinician will recommend the following books and resources:
Brazelton, T. (1992). Touchpoints: The Essential Reference. New York: Addison-Wesley.
Cline, F., and J. Fay (1990). Parenting with Love and Logic. Colorado Springs, CO: Navpress.
Covey, S. (1997). The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families: Building a Beautiful Family Culture in a Turbulent World. New York: Golden Books Publishing Co.
Dinkmeyer, D., G. McKay, and Dinkmeyer (1989). Parenting Young Children. Circle Pines, MN: American Guidance Service.
Dreikurs, R., and V. Stoltz (1964). Children: The Challenge. New York: Plume Printing.
Fay, J. (1988). Helicopters, Drill Sergeants, and Consultants. Golden, CO: Cline/Fay Institute, Inc. (Audiotape)
Fay, J., and C. Fay (2002). Love and Magic for Early Childhood. Golden, CO: The Love and Logic Press.
Fay, J., F. Cline, and C. Fay (2000). Becoming a Love and Logic Parent. Golden, CO: The Love and Logic Press.
Gordon, T. (2000). Parent Effectiveness Training. New York: Three Rivers Press.
Ilg, F., and L. Ames (1985). The Gesell Institute’s Child Behavior: From Birth to Ten. New York: HarperCollins.
Moorman, C. (2003). Parent Talk: How to Talk to Your Children in Language That Builds Self-Esteem and Encourages Responsibility. New York: Fireside.
Moorman, C., and S. Knapp (2001). The Parent Talk System: The Language of Responsible Parenting. Merrill, MI: Personal Power Press.
Walt Disney Pictures. (2003). Finding Nemo. Burbank, CA: Buena Vista Home Entertainment. (Video, DVD)
Parenting Skills Training: Strategies for Children (Age 7 to 12)
Parenting children between the ages of 7 and 12 is both rewarding and challenging, as this developmental stage is marked by significant cognitive, emotional, and social growth. Implementing effective parenting strategies can foster a supportive environment that promotes your child’s well-being and success. Effective communication is essential; showing genuine interest in your child’s thoughts and feelings through active listening encourages open dialogue. Providing concise and specific directions helps avoid confusion, and using positive language builds confidence and self-esteem.
Establishing routines and consistency provides a sense of security. Maintaining regular schedules for homework, chores, and bedtime, and applying rules uniformly reinforce expectations and accountability. While consistency is important, being flexible when necessary allows adjustments in response to special circumstances. Positive reinforcement is another key strategy. Acknowledging efforts and achievements motivates continued positive behavior, and implementing reward systems like sticker charts or extra privileges can encourage responsibility. Offering constructive feedback focuses on improvement rather than solely on mistakes.
Promoting independence and responsibility involves assigning age-appropriate tasks to build competence and allowing your child to make choices to enhance problem-solving skills. Encouraging goal setting helps them foster self-discipline. Emotional support is crucial; validating their feelings strengthens emotional intelligence, and teaching coping skills provides tools for managing stress. Modeling empathy by demonstrating understanding and compassion in your interactions also contributes to their emotional development.
Engaging in your child’s education by showing interest in their schoolwork and offering assistance when needed supports their academic progress. Encouraging reading by providing access to books and reading together promotes literacy. Communicating with teachers helps you stay informed and collaborate on their educational needs. Social skill development is important as well. Facilitating friendships through participation in group activities or clubs builds social networks. Teaching respect and manners emphasizes the importance of polite interactions, and addressing bullying through open discussions and intervention when necessary ensures their social well-being.
Managing technology and screen time involves setting clear limits on acceptable durations and content, promoting alternative activities like hobbies or sports to balance technology use, and educating about online safety, privacy, and appropriate behavior. Health and nutrition are foundational; providing a balanced diet supports physical growth and cognitive development, encouraging regular physical activity promotes exercise, and ensuring adequate rest through consistent sleep schedules contributes to healthy sleep habits.
Problem-solving and conflict resolution can be fostered by involving your child in resolving issues to teach negotiation skills, staying calm during conflicts to model composed behavior, and establishing fair and logical consequences for misbehavior to teach accountability. Cultural and moral education involves sharing family values to instill moral grounding, promoting diversity awareness to teach respect for different cultures and perspectives, and engaging in community involvement to foster empathy and civic responsibility.
Finally, encouraging creativity and curiosity by supporting their interests, providing resources that stimulate learning, and asking open-ended questions fosters critical thinking. Implementing these strategies requires patience, consistency, and adaptability. Remember that every child is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. Staying attuned to your child’s needs and being willing to adjust your approach as they grow and change is key. Building a strong, supportive relationship during these formative years lays the foundation for their future well-being and success.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Cline, F., and J. Fay (1990). Parenting with Love and Logic. Colorado Springs, CO: Navpress.
Dinkmeyer, D., and G. McKay (1989). Systematic Training for Effective Parenting (STEP). Circle Pines, MN: American Guidance Service.
Fay, J. (1988). Helicopters, Drill Sergeants, and Consultants. Golden, CO: Cline/Fay Institute, Inc. (Audiotape)
Fay, J., F. Cline, and C. Fay (2000). Becoming a Love and Logic Parent. Golden, CO: The Love and Logic Press.
Gordon, T. (2000). Parent Effectiveness Training. New York: Three Rivers Press.
Moorman, C. (1998). Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound. Merrill, MI: Personal Power Press.
Moorman, C., and S. Knapp (2001). The Parent Talk System: The Language of Responsible Parenting. Merrill, MI: Personal Power Press.
Parenting Skills Training: Strategies for Teenagers (Age 13 to 18)
Parenting teenagers is both rewarding and challenging. Adolescence is a critical developmental stage marked by rapid physical, emotional, and cognitive changes. As teenagers strive for independence, parents may find it difficult to adjust their parenting strategies to meet their evolving needs. Effective parenting during this period involves open communication, setting clear expectations, fostering independence, promoting positive behavior, addressing emotional health, educating about risks, encouraging academic engagement, developing problem-solving skills, maintaining involvement, and respecting their privacy and individuality.
Open and effective communication is essential. Parents should practice active listening by giving full attention when their teenager speaks, showing empathy by acknowledging their feelings, and reflecting back what they’ve heard. Creating a non-judgmental environment where teens feel comfortable sharing their thoughts without fear of criticism encourages open dialogue. Establishing regular check-ins, such as during meals or before bedtime, can help maintain consistent communication. Setting clear expectations and boundaries helps teenagers understand what is expected of them. Developing consistent rules that are fair and understandable provides structure. Involving teens in setting rules and consequences increases their sense of responsibility and fairness. When rules are broken, consequences should be enforced fairly, ensuring they are reasonable and related to the misbehavior.
Fostering independence and responsibility is crucial for teenagers’ development. Encouraging decision-making allows them to make choices about their lives, such as selecting extracurricular activities or taking on part-time jobs, which builds confidence. Assigning responsibilities at home, like chores or managing their own schedules, provides opportunities for them to contribute and learn accountability. Supporting goal setting helps them develop plans to achieve realistic objectives, promoting self-discipline and motivation. Promoting positive behavior involves acknowledging and praising good behavior and accomplishments to reinforce positive actions. Parents should model appropriate behavior by demonstrating respectful communication and problem-solving skills, setting an example for their teens to follow. Encouraging healthy peer relationships supports teens in building friendships with peers who have positive influences.
Addressing emotional and mental health is a vital aspect of parenting teenagers. Parents should recognize signs of stress, being attentive to changes in behavior that may indicate anxiety or depression. Providing emotional support by offering empathy and understanding when teens face challenges is important. If concerns about a teen’s well-being arise, seeking professional help from a mental health professional may be necessary. Educating teenagers about risks and safety is essential. Open conversations about the risks of alcohol, drugs, and tobacco help teens make informed decisions. Teaching internet safety, including online privacy, cyberbullying, and appropriate internet use, prepares them to navigate the digital world responsibly. Providing accurate information about sexual development, consent, and safe practices ensures they are informed about sexual health.
Encouraging academic and extracurricular engagement supports teenagers’ growth. Showing interest in their academic life and encouraging good study habits promotes educational goals. Participation in sports, arts, or clubs helps them develop skills and interests outside the classroom. Helping them find a healthy balance between school, activities, and relaxation is important for their overall well-being. Developing problem-solving skills equips teenagers to handle conflicts and challenges. Teaching conflict resolution guides them in resolving disputes calmly and respectfully. Encouraging critical thinking helps them consider multiple perspectives on issues. Building resilience by helping them learn from setbacks and view challenges as opportunities for growth strengthens their ability to cope with difficulties.
Maintaining parental involvement is important without being intrusive. Staying involved by keeping up with their activities, friends, and interests shows support. Attending events like school functions, sports games, or performances demonstrates commitment to their endeavors. Scheduling regular family activities strengthens bonds and fosters a sense of belonging. Respecting their privacy and individuality acknowledges their need for personal space. Accepting individual differences and embracing their unique personality, interests, and choices supports their self-expression. Allowing them to make choices, even if they differ from parental preferences, supports their autonomy.
Effective parenting of teenagers involves staying calm and patient, as adolescence can be tumultuous. Maintaining composure helps de-escalate conflicts. Educating oneself about adolescent development aids in understanding the changes teens are experiencing. Building trust by being honest and reliable, and following through on promises, is crucial. Seeking support from other parents, support groups, or professionals provides guidance and shared experiences.
In conclusion, parenting teenagers requires a balance of guidance, support, and allowing independence. By fostering open communication, setting clear expectations, and respecting their growing autonomy, parents can help their teenagers navigate adolescence successfully. This approach builds a strong, positive relationship that lasts into adulthood. Remember, every teenager is unique, and being adaptable and responsive to their individual needs is key. The goal is to provide a nurturing environment where teenagers feel supported and empowered to become responsible, healthy, and happy adults.
The long term goals of Parenting Skills Training (Strategies for Teenagers from 13 to 18 years old)
- Acquire positive discipline strategies that set reasonable limits on and encourage independence in teenagers.
- Guide the teenager to develop effective problem-solving skills and strategies for success at home, school, and in the community.
- Build a positive relationship with the teenager that can carry over into adulthood.
- Demonstrate respect, regard, and unconditional love for the teenager.
- Teenager develops independence, self-reliance, and a pattern of responsible behavior.
The clinician will:
- Refer the parents to a positive parenting class
- Systematic Training for Effective Parenting of Teens by Dinkmeyer, McKay, McKay, and Dinkmeyer
- Discipline with Love and Logic by Cline and Fay
- The Parent Talk System by Moorman and Knapp
Please click on the link here for a PDF copy of the full treatment plan from the Wiley book
[Parenting Skills Training: Strategies for Teenagers 13-18] Please let the clinician know if the link does not work
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Cline, F., and J. Fay (1992). Parenting Teens with Love and Logic. Colorado Springs, CO: Navpress.
Covey, S. (1997). The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families: Building a Beautiful Family Culture in a Turbulent World. New York: Golden Books Publishing Co.
Dinkmeyer, D., G. McKay, J. McKay, and D. Dinkmeyer (1998). Parenting Teenagers: Systematic Training for Effective Parenting of Teens. Circle Pines, MN: American Guidance Service.
Ginott, H. (1985). Between Parent and Teenager. New York: Avon.
Gordon, T. (2000). Parent Effectiveness Training. New York: Three Rivers Press.
Moorman, C., and S. Knapp (2001). The Parent Talk System: The Language of Responsible Parenting. Merrill, MI: Personal Power Press.
Tainey, D., B. Rainey, and B. Nygren (2002). Parenting Today’s Adolescent: Helping Your Child Avoid the Traps of the Preteen and Teen Years. Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson.
Parenting Skills Training: Substance Abuse
Effective parenting skills can significantly reduce the risk of substance abuse among youth and can also support parents who are struggling with their own substance use issues. Parenting skills training programs are designed to enhance the abilities of parents to raise well-adjusted children by providing them with strategies to foster positive behaviors and mitigate risks associated with substance abuse. Parenting skills training is a valuable tool in the fight against substance abuse. By empowering parents with effective strategies and support, these programs can lead to healthier family dynamics and reduce the prevalence of substance use among both youth and adults. Engaging in such training can foster a supportive environment that promotes the well-being and resilience of the entire family.
The Long Term Goals of Parenting Skills Training (Substance Abuse)
- Establish a healthy, drug-free lifestyle in all family members.
- Cooperate with a treatment program designed to help the child and/or other family members achieve and maintain recovery from all mood-altering addictions.
- Set firm, consistent, and loving discipline limits for the child.
- Realistically evaluate personal substance use and determine the negative effects on the child.
- Reduce co-dependency and establish ongoing encouragement for the child’s abstinence from mind-altering substances.
Understanding Parenting Skills Training
Parenting skills training involves educational programs that aim to improve parents’ abilities in areas such as communication, discipline, problem-solving, and emotional support.
These programs often focus on:
- Positive Reinforcement: Encouraging desired behaviors through rewards and recognition.
- Effective Communication: Teaching parents how to listen actively and speak openly with their children.
- Setting Boundaries: Establishing clear rules and consequences to guide behavior.
- Emotional Support: Providing a nurturing environment that fosters self-esteem and resilience.
Preventing Substance Abuse in Youth
Research indicates that certain parenting styles and practices can influence the likelihood of substance abuse in adolescents. Parenting skills training can help prevent substance abuse by:
- Enhancing Parental Monitoring: Teaching parents how to be aware of their children’s activities and peer associations without being overly intrusive.
- Improving Family Relationships: Strengthening the emotional bonds between parents and children to reduce the appeal of substance use as a coping mechanism.
- Addressing Risk Factors: Educating parents on how to recognize and mitigate factors that increase the risk of substance abuse, such as peer pressure and stress.
Evidence-Based Programs
Several evidence-based parenting programs have been shown to be effective in reducing substance abuse among youth:
- The Strengthening Families Program: Focuses on improving family relationships and parenting skills to prevent substance use and other behavioral problems.
- The Parenting Wisely Program: An interactive, computer-based program that teaches parents effective parenting techniques.
- Family Check-Up: Offers tailored interventions based on the specific needs of the family to address risk behaviors.
Supporting Parents with Substance Use Issues
Parenting skills training is also vital for parents who are dealing with substance abuse themselves. These programs can:
- Promote Recovery: By focusing on parenting, parents may find additional motivation to seek treatment and maintain sobriety.
- Break the Cycle: Teaching effective parenting skills can help prevent intergenerational patterns of substance abuse.
- Provide Resources: Connect parents with support services such as counseling, rehabilitation programs, and support groups.
[Watch the Video] (2021): Substance Use, Trauma And Parenting: Challenges And Intervention | UW-Madison Sandra Rosenbaum School of Social Work [1 hour, 2 minutes]
- Presenter: Ruth Paris, Associate Professor and Chair, Clinical Practice Department, School of Social Work, Boston University Ruth Paris, chair of the Clinical Practice Department, is recognized for her expertise in trauma and infant and early childhood mental health (IECMH), including a particular focus on families struggling with substance and opioid use disorders (SUDs and OUDs). With support from the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), Health Resources and Services Administration (HRSA), other federal funders and private foundations, she has developed and evaluated multiple attachment-based interventions targeted at vulnerable families with young children. Paris’ work is driven by her desire to develop effective and accessible interventions that are feasible in community settings, culturally responsive, benefit families with young children and make substantive sense in the field. She is currently evaluating BRIGHT, (Building Resilience Through Intervention: Growing Healthier Together), a dyadic therapeutic parenting intervention offered within substance use treatment programs. Additionally, with a grant from HRSA, Paris is testing BRIGHT in a randomized controlled trial for pregnant and parenting women with SUD/OUD in a prenatal clinic at Boston Medical Center.
[Watch the Video] (2011): Preventing Adolescent Drug Abuse through Life Skills Training | Cornell University [1 hour, 14 minutes]
- Considerable progress has been made toward developing effective approaches to the prevention of tobacco, alcohol, and illicit drug use. Universal school-based approaches have received considerable attention since schools have traditionally provide a logical locus for reaching a large number of adolescents in a structured setting. The Life Skills Training (LST) approach has been extensively tested and is one of the most widely disseminated evidence-based prevention programs. However, schools have been slow to adopt evidence-based approaches such LST. Gilbert Botvin, professor of public health and psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College, presents an overview of advances in drug abuse prevention, findings from two decades of research testing the LST approach, and a discussion of the many challenges of translating prevention research into practice. Botvin delivered the College of Human Ecology’s John Doris Memorial Lecture on April 6, 2011. The lecture series was established in honor of the founding director of Family Life Development Center.
Resources for Further Information:
- Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA): Offers resources and information on parenting programs and substance abuse prevention.
- National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA): Provides research and guidelines on preventing drug use among children and adolescents.
- Local Community Centers: Often host parenting workshops and support groups that focus on skill-building and substance abuse prevention.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Cline, F., and J. Fay (1992). Parenting Teens with Love and Logic. Colorado Springs, CO: Navpress.
DiPrisco, J. (2000). Field Guide to the American Teenager: A Parent’s Companion. New York: Perseus Book Group.
Jalil, G. (1996). Street Wise Drug Prevention. Reading, PA: No More Drugs Inc.
Moorman, C. (1998). Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound. Merrill, MI: Personal Power Press.
Wachel, T., D. York, and P. York (1982). Toughlove. Garden City, NJ: Doubleday.
Acknowledgment of Understanding:
By checking the box here, the client is indicating that they have reviewed the information about the parenting skills training module about substance abuse (which may or may not apply to every client). The client agrees that they will let the clinician know if they have any questions or concerns. The client will indicate whether this specific treatment plan is applicable and whether they want it added to their treatment plan.
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Parenting Skills Training: Suicide Prevention
Suicide among children and adolescents is a significant public health concern. Effective parenting plays a crucial role in mitigating risk factors associated with suicidal behaviors and enhancing protective factors that promote mental well-being. Parenting skills training equips parents with the tools and strategies needed to support their children’s mental health, thereby contributing to suicide prevention efforts. Parenting skills training is a vital component of suicide prevention strategies. By enhancing parents’ abilities to support their children’s emotional and psychological needs, these programs help build resilience and reduce the likelihood of suicidal behaviors. Investing in effective parenting not only benefits individual families but also contributes to the overall mental health of the community.
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The Long-Term Goals of a Suicide Prevention Treatment Plan for Parents Include:
The parent or parents will:
- Seek medical and psychological treatment to diffuse the child’s suicidal ideation and eliminate the eminent danger of suicide.
- Create a positive and supportive parent/child relationship.
- Establish social and emotional stability among all family members.
- Develop an understanding of the underlying factors contributing to the child’s suicidal ideation,
- Implement positive, effective, and consistent child management strategies designed to promote responsible behavior, healthy self-esteem, and feelings of optimism toward the future.
Resources for Further Assistance
- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
- Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA): Offers resources on mental health services.
- American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP): Provides information on suicide prevention and support networks.
References:
- Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2020). Preventing Suicide: A Technical Package of Policy, Programs, and Practices.
- Sanders, M. R., & Kirby, J. N. (2014). Consumer Engagement and the Development, Evaluation, and Dissemination of Evidence-Based Parenting Programs. Behavior Therapy, 45(6), 887–901.
- National Institute of Mental Health. Suicide Prevention.
YouTube Video Resources:
[Watch the Video] (2019): How to Talk About Suicidal Thoughts: Simple Strategies for Parents and Friends | Therapy in a Nutshell [9 minutes, 10 seconds]
From a mental health professional licensed in the US
- Are you worried that someone you care about is having suicidal thoughts? Do you know what to say to them? This video provides resources for suicide prevention, information on where you can get personalized support, and info about the risk factors for suicide and warning factors. And it provides parents with what to say and what not to say to a child who tells them that they are feeling suicidal. If you’re worried that a loved one may engage in self-harm or if you just need to know the options as far as crisis hotlines go, this video will walk you through how to help the person you care about get the help they need and get feeling better.
The clinician will recommend the following books:
Arena, J. (1996). Step Back from the Exit: 45 Reasons to Say No to Suicide. New York: Zebulon Press.
Blauner, S. (2003). How I Stayed Alive When My Brain Was Trying to Kill Me: One Person’s Guide to Suicide Prevention. New York: Quill.
Conroy, D. (1991). Out of the Nightmare: Recovery from Depression and Suicidal Pain. New York: New Liberty Press.
Ellis, T., and C. Newman.(1996). Choosing to Live: How to Defeat Suicide Through Cognitive Therapy. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications.
Faber, A., and Mazlish, E. (1982). How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk. New York: Avon Books.
Gordon, T. (2000). Parent Effectiveness Training. New York: Three Rivers Press.
Moorman, C. (1998). Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound. Merrill, MI: Personal Power Press.
Quinett, P. (1989). Suicide: The Forever Decision. New York: Continuum.
Acknowledgment of Understanding:
By checking the box here, the client is indicating that they have reviewed the information about the parenting skills training module about suicide prevention (which may or may not apply to every client). The client agrees that they will let the clinician know if they have any questions or concerns. The client agrees to seek immediate emergency or crisis services if someone they care for is expressing active suicidal thoughts with intent or a plan, and access to means. The client will indicate whether this specific treatment plan is applicable and whether they want it added to their treatment plan.
Conclusion
This is the end of the specific treatment plans from the Wiley Treatment Planner Series Parenting Skills Training Book. Please continue to learn about the clinician’s health and wellness program
Acknowledgment of Understanding and Agreement:
The client will indicate their understanding of the information described above, and whether or not they would like to include this section of the program in their individual treatment plan.